Monday, March 28, 2011

In my mothers; shoes


“Wow where are you from,” asks the clerk behind the counter. My mother replies, “Here, I’m from Arizona.


One year ago my mother was terribly sick, and was in the hospital for almost two months. During this time she received several dozen breathing treatments. She was seen by a speech therapist, a throat specialist, and doctor after doctor; who in the end could only fix her bronchitis, not what remained from her illness. She had no voice, only a whisper, and a shaky whisper at that. My mother was devastated. She prayed and prayed and didn’t know what to do or think of what happened to her.


After months of suffering and trying to speak again her voice came back but only a little bit. She has been asked if she is a victim of stroke, is she Swedish, English, where is she from, and snickers behind her back. Do people understand that if they don’t have something nice to say to not say anything at all? What if you were in her shoes, what if you were struggling to be heard? So many people will never know what it is like to be my mother, I have no idea what it is like to be my mother either, but I watch I hear, and I defend all the time. My mother is not a joke; she is trying to just live her life, without the ridicule, and without the hatred. One day she was almost attacked by a homeless man because she wouldn’t respond to him regarding his financial situation. She tried to speak however on some occasions she cannot get the words out of her mouth. This situation was one of those days.


Just remember that if you hear someone who sounds like they may be sick; think before you tell them how awful they sound; you may just stick your foot in your mouth. Mom you are my hero, you have always been my hero and I am proud of you for going out there into the world and LIVING LIFE.. I love you. I always will.



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13 comments:

COUNTRY PICKINS said...

Heidi, What a wonderful, loving daughter you are. People just do not understand when something happens to a person that changes them. It is not their fault, and they try to go on with life, but the many ignorant people out there are just filled with hate and ignorance, and they take it out on someone that is different. I do know what you and your Mom are feeling, as I am a burn victim. I never wear shorts or sandals anymore. When i did people just whispered, stared or laughed when they would see my scars.You just grit your teeth and go on, and pray that people quit being so mean. You are such a wonderful daughter, just like mine are, to defend and love your Mom like you do. Cheer up Sweetie.
Lotsa hugs to you,
Linda

Country Wings in Phoenix said...

Oh My Sweet and Precious Daughter...
I cannot begin to tell you what this post means to me. I have struggled, you, my family have watched me, for almost a year, and I just want to live a normal life as much as possible.

If I could bring back my old voice I would. I have prayed and prayed for that to happen, however, I truly believe that this is a journey that God is guiding me on. Where ever it takes me, I will continue, and try each day to become a little bit stronger to the pain.

I try with everything I have to smile and go on, and only shed my tears behind a closed door. Only you, my dear daughter and your Dad have wiped those tears. I am trying to get tougher each day. Keep on pushing me sweet one.

I love you with all my heart and soul forever and to eternity. Love, Mom

Shelley said...

Praying your dear mom's voice is healed and completely restored...blessings

sissie said...

Hello Heidi!
As I read your post I am so reminded of the deep and wonderful love that a daughter has for her Mother. Your Mom, Sherry is one of the sweetest and dearest ones here in blogland. I have long adored her and my heart breaks when I think of all that she has gone through and what you and your family have gone through.

I will always keep Sherry and you in my prayers. Her voice is always heard loud and clear here and her love is always felt deeply by those of us who know her.

When my son had cancer, (now in remission for 9 years) following one of his chemo treatments, he was really hungry and needed to eat.
We went to a restaurant and the woman across from our booth kept starring at him. He was as white as snow, his eyes had black circles underneath, he was pencil thin and his hair was very thin. He sat there barely able to hold his head up in order to get the fork to his mouth. She kept starring at him like he was a drug addict or something. I remember being so angry that when he and his Dad walked to the car, I went up to the woman and told her that she should be ashamed for starring at my son. She just looked at me and made a rude remark. I remember leaving there and holding back tears so he wouldn't see them.

So, I know of where you speak. I pray that Sherry will never be treated rudely or her feelings hurt.

Tell her I love her. You are a wonderful daughter.

hugs
Sissie

KarenHarveyCox said...

Heidi,
I adore your mother, and if I had been there I would have been mad too. Your mother's voice is heard loud and clear in the Land of Blog. Everything that she shares is beautiful and sweet, just like her. You are a loyal daughter.

Karen

Julie Tucker-Wolek said...

You are ONE amazing daughter... I love your Mom more than I can express to you in words... thank you for writing these beautiful words for your mom... you are wonderful.... :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Lisa said...

I cannot believe it has been a year! I am so glad your sweet mom is doing so well!
Hugs, Lisa

Marydon said...

Heidi, Your Mother is such a beautiful loving caring lady ... I am so blessed to have a sister like her. I am proud to call you niece.. thank you for such a beautiful share of support ... we love her dearly & she sure has been threw a living hell, but her raspy loving voice is still melodic & loving.

Go gettum, sweetie ... you are marvelous!

Love ya!
Auntie M

Oklahoma Granny said...

I was just visiting your mom's blog. My heart goes out to her and my prayers are with her. I have another blog friend with the same condition. Maybe you know her? Coffee Bean from The Righteous Buzz (http://righteousbuzz.blogspot.com/).

Sandy said...

Heidi,
I was fortunate to meet your Mom about a year or so ago for an AZ bloggers lunch...I was just amazed at her then! I have since seen her at our friend Meri's house...and I had as good as a time that day also!...how in the world could anyone be that cruel to your sweet sweet Mom....Shame on them! Youa re a good daughter Heidi...:):) Sandy

newlifeislikethis said...

I do hope your mother is getting better. A daughter like you can be a great encouragement for her.

Jenny said...

I'm so sorry that some people are so cruel.

Praying that your mother's voice comes back loud and strong!

Joaninha said...

hello!!
I'm Joana fron BRASIL!!
And I loved your blog!!
Kisses
(e não é loucura da joaninha)
http://loucuradajoaninha.blogspot.com/

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